Compatibility Matrix: possible reason for a couple’s separation (9)
Compatibility Matrix will help you analyse and improve relationships not only with a romantic partner but also with friends and family. People sometimes drift apart, and that’s perfectly normal, but it’s also worth bearing in mind that we are the architects of our own happiness.
This article explains how to identify the possible reason for a separation with your partner using the Compatibility Matrix. At the end of the article, we provide an interpretation for each energy.
Zone responsible for the possible cause of separation
To discover the likely reason for drifting apart from someone, you first need to calculate the Compatibility Matrix, which you can do using our free online calculator.
Next, focus on the central energy in the Higher Self zone, which governs the aspect you’re interested in:
Interpretation
In the Compatibility Matrix, there cannot be a First or Second Arcana in the calculation, so here is the interpretation for energies 3–22:
| 3. The Empress: | jealousy, oversensitivity, constant demands for attention, ‘smothering’ care. |
| 4. The Emperor: | a constant drive for domination, power struggles (conflicts and quarrels over leadership), nitpicking, rigidity and excessive control. |
| 5. The Hierophant: | constant lecturing from a partner, cultural and traditional differences, actively imposing one’s views, reluctance to marry. |
| 6. The Lovers: | fear of love, persistent doubts, idealisation of a partner followed by resentment when expectations aren’t met, poor choices, infidelity. |
| 7. The Chariot: | a tendency towards destructiveness, emotional tension, conflicts, lack of shared plans, relationships that have grown stale. |
| 8. Justice: | a propensity for mutual blame, relationships without commitment, unwillingness to take responsibility, lack of trust. |
| 9. The Hermit: | little emotion in the relationship, a partner’s withdrawal, unwillingness to open up, lack of understanding, absence of personal space, one partner wanting an active social role while the other wishes to retreat and stay at home. |
| 10. Wheel of Fortune: | inconsistency, loss of ease, shortage of positive emotions, recurring mistakes, emotional rollercoasters. |
| 11. Strength: | lack of emotional connection, loss of interest, absence of passion, pressure within the relationship. |
| 12. The Hanged Man: | stagnation, one partner adopting a victim role, the relationship stuck in uncertainty and lack of confidence about the future. |
| 13. Death: | stagnation in the relationship, resistance to change, fear of losing one’s partner hindering progress. |
| 14. Temperance: | differing temperaments, lack of balance, unwillingness to reach consensus when resolving conflicts. |
| 15. The Devil: | manipulations, codependent relationships, sometimes a love triangle, jealousy, emphasising a partner’s weaknesses and darker side instead of accepting them as they are. |
| 16. The Tower: | rage, scandals, possible physical violence, a partner’s refusal to change, potential destruction of something important to both, the aftermath of which can lead to a breakup. |
| 17. The Star: | coldness, inability to show feelings, criticism of a partner, one person feeling superior to the other, devaluing their partner. |
| 18. The Moon: | many uncertainties, ambiguity, negative patterns from past relationships, insincerity, hiding information, possible infidelity, lies. |
| 19. The Sun: | selfish behaviour, disrespect, irritation over trivial matters, lack of financial stability. |
| 20. Judgement: | interference from a partner’s family, lack of prospects, no future planning, and instead a desire to mould the partner to one’s own liking. |
| 21. The World: | violation of personal boundaries, lack of warmth, loss of trust, absence of progression to a new level, rigid limits and restrictions. |
| 22. The Fool: | superficial feelings, inability to form a serious relationship, restriction of freedom of choice and will. |
Conclusion
If fate has decreed that you will part ways with someone, then so it will be. However, it is also important to remember that relationships with those we cherish and love should not be left to chance but require effort. Analysing the point of potential separation will not only help strengthen relationships but also reveal possible sources of conflict for partners.
