Loneliness as a Signal: The Destiny Matrix Explains What’s Preventing You from Building a Relationship
Loneliness as a Signal: How the Destiny Matrix Reveals What’s Blocking You from Building Relationships
“On paper, everything seems fine: I’m smart, open, attractive – but romantic relationships just aren’t working out. And at some point, I catch myself wondering: What’s wrong with me?”
In truth, there’s nothing wrong with you. Loneliness is often a sign of an inner block that’s preventing you from letting someone in. We may crave love but struggle to receive it. We may build the image of an ideal partner but stay emotionally closed. Or the opposite — we might be emotionally ready, yet subconsciously choose partners who are unavailable for true intimacy.
The Arcanum beneath the heart zone in your Destiny Matrix is more than just a symbolic portrait of your ideal partner. It also encodes your inner fears – especially those tied to emotional vulnerability. This Arcanum reveals how you perceive love, why you may avoid emotional closeness (consciously or not), and most importantly: what’s truly stopping you from building a deep connection.
Why Are You Alone? Arcana 3–22 in the Heart Zone – Interpretations
Use our online Destiny Matrix calculator to find the Arcanum beneath your heart zone, discover the cause of loneliness, and learn how to work through it. Below are the meanings of each energy.
3 – The Empress
You give a lot – care, warmth, attention – but often neglect yourself. You’re used to living “for others” and hope to be loved simply for being you.
What to do: Learn to fill your own cup. Pause, accept care from others, and stop trying to earn love through deeds.
4 – The Emperor
You want to be reliable, strong, and in control. But control suffocates intimacy.
What to do: Trust. Show your vulnerability. True partnership is built on equality, not dominance.
5 – The Hierophant
You live by principles and expect your partner to follow the rules too. As a result, you may dismiss someone who could actually make you happy.
What to do: Let go of the idea of “doing things right”. Allow people to be different – and yourself too.
6 – The Lovers
You fear making choices. You want it all at once. In the end, doubts leave you alone.
What to do: Learn to listen to your heart. Don’t decide with logic – choose with feeling. It’s okay to make mistakes.
7 – The Chariot
You’re always on the move – chasing success, goals, projects. Relationships feel like an inconvenient pause.
What to do: Slow down. Love takes time. You can be strong and loved at the same time.
8 – Justice
You evaluate everything through logic. Even emotions are filtered as right or wrong. That gives you control but kills spontaneity.
What to do: Let yourself feel without judgement. In relationships, it’s not about formulas – it’s about connection.
9 – The Hermit
You’re used to being alone. Perhaps you even doubt that real closeness is possible for you.
What to do: Take a step forward – even a small one. Your depth is valuable and can be shared.
10 – The Wheel of Fortune
You’re always changing – physically, mentally, energetically. Stable relationships seem boring.
What to do: Learn to be present. Slow down. Intimacy isn’t chaos – it’s grounding.
11 – Strength
You endure, manage, and hold everything together. But a partner isn’t someone you should rescue – it’s someone with whom it feels easy.
What to do: Don’t be afraid to seem weak. Embrace your softness – it’s a strength too.
12 – The Hanged Man
You wait too long. You play the role of the self-sacrificing victim. It clouds your view of real opportunities.
What to do: Move forward. Don’t wait for things to “just work out”. Life is movement.
13 – Death
You expect everything to end eventually. So closeness feels risky – because it might lead to loss.
What to do: Don’t jump ahead. Let relationships evolve. Not every ending is a tragedy – sometimes, it’s just transformation.
14 – Temperance
You’re too calm, too patient, and rarely initiate contact. You think, “If it’s meant to be, fate will take care of it.”
What to do: Start showing up. Send the first message. Express your feelings. Energy flows when you move.
15 – The Devil
You’re magnetic, passionate, and know how to attract. But deep down you fear losing control, so you choose emotionally unavailable partners.
What to do: Focus on what you truly need – not just who excites you. Don’t confuse passion with love.
16 – The Tower
You’ve been hurt. Now you push people away to avoid being hurt again.
What to do: Accept that closeness is a risk – but life without it is only half-lived. Not everyone will repeat the past.
17 – The Star
You live in dreams. Waiting for someone perfect, someone unreal. Real people pale in comparison.
What to do: Lower the fantasy. Look around. Love is often simpler than we imagine.
18 – The Moon
You mix fantasy with reality. Fears, suspicions, overthinking – it makes you doubt even those close to you.
What to do: Learn to separate emotions from facts. Say out loud what worries you. Don’t assume – ask.
19 – The Sun
You’re bright, strong, open. But you fear rejection if you show vulnerability.
What to do: Take off the “perfect” mask. Be real. People are drawn to warmth – not a façade.
20 – Judgement
You take everything seriously, deeply, fatefully. But sometimes, a relationship is simply about giving it a go.
What to do: Don’t wait for a sign. Start small – a chat, a meeting, curiosity. Not everything has to be “forever” from the start.
21 – The World
You seem ready, but feel like “something’s still unfinished”. You’re always closing tasks and saving love for later.
What to do: Pause. Let yourself live mid-process. You don’t have to fix everything before you start living.
22 – The Fool
You fear responsibility. Or perhaps you don’t even know what you want. So you let go, run away, swap depth for ease.
What to do: Ask yourself honestly – do you really want a relationship? Or are you just afraid of being alone? Start there.
Additional Practices
Analysing your Destiny Matrix is only the first step. To move beyond loneliness, it’s essential to reconnect with your body and emotions. Here’s what else can help:
- Chakra practices – especially meditations for opening the Heart Chakra (Anahata);
- Bodywork – dancing, yoga, breathwork. Anything that brings you back to feeling alive;
- Aromatherapy – essential oils like neroli, rose, and ylang-ylang awaken your sensuality and dissolve emotional blocks;
Crystal healing with rose quartz, moonstone, or rhodonite.
