What prevents healthy relationships? — Analysis of the Relationships zone in the Destiny Matrix (22)

What prevents healthy relationships? — Analysis of the Relationships zone in the Destiny Matrix. Love in a relationship is a powerful force and energy that inspires great deeds. However, not all relationships run smoothly, which can negatively affect your emotional state. Some people choose their partner themselves and build the union gradually; others have no need for long-term commitment; and some are simply “unlucky”.

In this article, we will explore the factors that can hinder the formation of healthy relationships. Naturally, we will be guided by the Destiny Matrix and Natalia Ladini’s “22 Arcana” method.

How to calculate the Matrix and what the Relationships channel represents

Calculating the Destiny Matrix is quick and straightforward! All you need to do is open the form of our free Destiny Matrix calculator, enter your name, date of birth and gender.

Once you have your completed Matrix, pay attention to the Relationships channel (the three energies originating from Svadisthana). The energy at the junction with the Money line will help you maintain a balance between work and home; the arcana in the centre will indicate the qualities of the partner and the union you need; and the energy at the transition to the Karmic Tail will highlight what might cause problems in the relationship (this is precisely the point in the channel we need).

Conclusion: Diagnosing the factor preventing healthy relationships from entering your life

Before conducting the diagnosis and interpreting the possible reasons why you are unable to build a relationship, we would like to remind you that you can also use this interpretation when reading a compatibility matrix, which our matrix calculator is also capable of computing.

If you’re examining your own matrix, the energy pinpoints issues specific to you. However, if you’re viewing the compatibility matrix, it reveals the problems that both partners bring into the relationship.

Here is the interpretation:

1. The Magician: You are closed off from your partner and unwilling to let them in on your problems and desires. On top of that, you’re constantly absorbed in your own affairs and fail to give your partner the attention they deserve. Your intentions are almost impossible to read, even to yourself.
2. The High Priestess: Your tendency towards solitude hinders your ability to form a lasting relationship. You feel that partnership will deprive you of your independence, you suppress your emotions, or you enter temporary relationships because you’re afraid to admit your feelings.
3. The Empress: Your pride may lead you to reject all partners you deem unworthy of you. Conversely, low self-esteem can convince you that you’re undeserving of love or a fulfilling partnership.
4. The Emperor: You desire a stable, long-term relationship, but once committed you become overly controlling, constantly seeking to dominate your partner and impose restrictions. You may come across as cold and harsh.
5. The Hierophant: You disregard your partner’s perspective and impose only your own viewpoint, dominating the relationship. You don’t listen to your partner and offer advice even when it’s not asked for, which inevitably causes many problems.
6. The Lovers: You are very loving yet indecisive, always faced with choices, and once you make a decision you often second-guess yourself. You tend to be jealous, manipulative and prone to infidelity.
7. The Chariot: Most of the time you move in the right direction for yourself, but it may not align with your partner’s path. Alternatively, you might become too absorbed in your partner, to the detriment of your personal affairs.
8. Justice: You often jump to hasty conclusions about your relationship, which frequently leads to disappointment. You might deceive others and enter into short-lived relationships, and the mere mention of marriage scares you off.
9. The Hermit: There is a lack of full mutual understanding; you find it hard to compromise for the sake of your partner, and the idea of making concessions frightens you. You see yourself as a lone wolf and are more drawn to solitude and knowledge.
10. The Wheel of Fortune: You flee from any hint of love and only start to worry when your partner drifts away. Most often, you make no progress in the relationship, causing stagnation and cooling of feelings, yet for some unknown reason you stay.
11. Strength: Your negative emotions often get the better of you, leading you to sabotage your own relationships. The negativity you emit adversely affects your partnership and pushes your partner away. There may even be outbursts of physical aggression towards your partner.
12. The Hanged Man: You feel constrained by external circumstances and internal anxieties, adopting a ‘victim’ stance in your relationship. Over time, it will seem as though the romance has gone, and you won’t see a way out except to leave the relationship.
13. Death: You are unable to acknowledge the problems in your relationship, even as it teeters on the brink. You try to prolong the painful process, causing yourself even greater distress. No matter how much hurt your partner inflicts, you continue to fight for this unhealthy relationship.
14. Temperance: You are emotionally unstable in relationships, refusing to listen to your partner and immediately throwing tantrums. You can’t compromise, stand your ground rigidly, and are impatient—demanding everything at once.
15. The Devil: In relationships you may be seen as an abuser—lying, cheating and using someone for your own gain. Even in the happiest marriage, you might succumb to fleeting temptations. You often control your partner and are two-faced (passionate one day, cold the next).
16. The Tower: You struggle to communicate with the opposite sex and tend to push others away. Internally, you carry a wealth of resentments and traumas inflicted by others or your parents, and you unconsciously project all this onto your partner.
17. The Star: In relationships you feel utterly hopeless. You may have endured situations that left you emotionally drained. Alternatively, this can manifest as a loss of faith in your own abilities, an aversion to meeting new people, and a total refusal to let emotions into your heart.
18. The Moon: Even in ideal relationships, you overanalyse every little detail, often spiralling into self-doubt and believing every action is a mistake, unable to control your emotions. For many, this can play out as nostalgia for past relationships.
19. The Sun: At first you may appear as a kind and loving partner, but over time your true nature will emerge. You are selfish, think only of yourself, and may suppress and clash with your partner.
20. Judgement: A failure to truly listen to each other, distrust, insecurity about the future together, a constant fear of separation, and conflicts that make it seem as though there was never any romance.
21. The World: An emotionally unstable individual battered by past failures, yet you unleash all your breakdowns on your partner. You are impatient, attempting to fix everything in the relationship at once—but your efforts lead to its destruction.
22. The Fool: You are a carefree soul not drawn to long-term commitments; you love spontaneity and detest stagnation. This can also manifest as blind passion, reckless behaviour, promiscuity and unbridled sensuality.

Remember: if you’re experiencing difficulties in a relationship, you should analyse yourself first rather than pointing out your partner’s faults!